Sunday, 12 July 2015

QUALITIES OF AN EFFICIENT LEADER

An efficient leader is defined as a person who is followed by the others. Besides that, a leader has to know about the human nature, and be able to direct people reducing the group's doubts about succeeding. Some people believe that a leader is born that way and there is no way, practicing or studying, to create a leader. They are wrong because inside of each and every one of us there is a leader waiting to be awake and holding on an opportunity to come out. A leader is capable of influencing and inspiring the people around him to voluntarily commit towards accomplishing a certain goal. There are different types of leadership people who specialize in trying to understand this important phenomenon. The only kind of leadership in which a person communicates true self are by way resonates with other people. This behavior is highly individual and situational for both the leader and follower and therefore there are a huge variety of ways in which effective leadership occurs. On top of that, when we think about the characteristic of a leader, we often think of leaders that are dynamic, which makes each of us to follow. We could take an example, such as Hitler. He did not have the values that we should follow, but he had that inspiration for the country to follow. If we also stop to think about the leaders today, we do not get the same vision of a leader that has a dynamism that is hard to resist, but rather a leader that has a good quality. The characteristics of a leader are not behaviors that will be new to those that strive to master them. Developing a good leadership skills take time, just like perfecting an idea or delivering on a project. Without an investment of time, very few people will have the skills to become the great leaders. Thus, there are many types of characteristic of being a good and efficient leader. A good leader is confident in doing everything. In order to lead and set direction a leader needs to appear confidently as a person and in the leadership role so that this person inspires confidence in others and brings out the trust and best efforts of the team to complete their work well. A leader who conveys confidence towards the proposed objective inspires the best effort from team members. Believing in their abilities is an essential way of a good leader. The next character of an efficient and good leader is responsible leader. A leader influences people and has a lot of power to move his team and followers. An irresponsible leader can create a disaster if he does not act responsibly. A leader must know that he is responsible for the team's achievements. If his team fails, he must have the courage of taking responsibility for that, and should then take steps to solve it. He also should not blame his team members unnecessarily if they have failed. Honesty is also one of the characters of an efficient and good leader. People nowadays want to trust their leader. The best way to gain trust in a leader is through the honest and trustworthy. In order to gain that attribute of honesty, you must go out of your way to display that honesty as an individual. When you don't admit that something didn't work, you are making a mistake. When you are honest you turn into an influence to other people. A good leader, as well as keeping the main goal in focus, is able to think analytically. Not only does a good leader view a situation as a whole, but is able to break it down into sub parts for closer inspection. While keeping the goal in view, a good leader can break it down into manageable steps and make progress towards it. No one likes a slack leader. It goes without saying that the best performer or the person who is most passionate and committed should be made the leader. This ensures that a level of professionalism is maintained, and that no one starts taking it easy at any point in time. It's easy to get carried away with a position of power, so the best leaders are those who use their power for the betterment of everyone, not abuse their power for their own personal betterment. Furthermore, effective communication is also one of the characteristic of a good and efficient leader. He should be able to put across what needs to be done and how. At the same time, he should be willing to accept relevant suggestions from his subordinates. He should have the ability to listen, question, analyze and observe effectively. He should believe that actions speak louder than words. A leader who constantly changes his or her tune will confuse the team members and this will lower their productivity. A leader must therefore be consistent in his actions, his words, and in his thoughts as well. Leaders who are biased never make good leaders, so he should be completely neutral and should display consistency that amazes everyone. Thus, an efficient and good leader must also know how to co -operate with his team. He should get to know his team members should not appear as an overly strict and rigid personality. Finally as a good and efficient leader, a leader must have passion. They should not make the necessary courageous and difficult decisions and carry them into action. So, the people around the world should give respect for all the leaders. Thus, we also should encourage the leaders by giving importance to them and also become their followers.
Qualities of a successful person
I have seen so many people struggle in life to succeed. They do everything possible to be a successful person. For them, success depends only on the amount of hard work they can put into their work. Besides that, a successful person is somebody who has been able to start a project and see it to the end and should also have guided quiet a number of people to bring their own projects to completion. A successful person also who is able to achieve an aim, fame, wealth or social position. Thus, there are some qualities that I feel justified in calling an individual a successful person. The first qualities that I found in a successful person are they work on themselves and never quit. Most of the successful people work on their personality, their leadership skills, management skills, and every other detail of life. When a relationship or business deal goes sour, they assume they can learn from it and they expect to do better next time. Successful people don't tolerate flaws and they fix themselves in a position. Besides that, they are self -reliant and take responsibility in their work. Successful person they don't worry about blame, and they don't waste time complaining. They make decisions and move on. Sometimes they are criticized for taking this to extremes. Extremely successful person take the initiative and accept the responsibilities of success. The next qualities of a successful person are they know how to separate what is important and what is not important. We have so many decisions to make every day. We sometimes lose our mind of what day it is because of the number of things that we think about every day. When we are able to separate what is important from what is not, we will find ourselves accomplishing the goals more fast and find ourselves doing more of what we want to do rather than things we have to do. On top of that, they also make decisions and take action. Either it is right or wrong action, they do accept it. Successful person are also an open minded and are willing to learn. They take the time to study and learn what is necessary to improve their skills. They are open to thoughts, suggestions, solutions, new information and change rather than thinking they already know everything, that there is nothing much to learn. They are also a positive person. Successful people don't let negative events alter their ego. They see the glass half full and not half empty. They are known as the ones who raise the costiveness among others. Those around them want to stay with them because they make them feel better. Furthermore, they never criticize others and never complain about others. Successful people don't criticize others when they are not listening, because otherwise people among them will recognize them as persons who tend to talk behind others. Everyone is able to complain about things. Bad things happen and complaining about them it's not a good solution to stop them to happen. If they're wrong, they are admitting to be wrong as a sign of superiority, and that's what successful people do. Trustworthy are also plays important roles for a successful person. We have know that ourselves clearly and trust ourselves at all situation. And at the meanwhile, don't forget to improve ourselves from work, books and others. We also need to focus on what we want and focus on our goal and know what we want in detail. Successful person are also leaders and thinkers. They don't follow the pack. They are innovative and quick to offer solutions when an issue arises. They are very fast-thinkers. Successful people read books a lot. Books that will help them get ahead, become motivated, and improve their lives. They know that college or university is not the end of their learning. It may just be the beginning. Besides, successful person also is a good thinker. They solve problems, they never lack ideas for building an organization, and they always have hope for a better future. Good thinkers rarely find themselves at the mercy of ruthless people who would take advantage of them or try to deceive them. They also rule themselves under an oppressive ruler or in other difficult circumstances. Successful people are the best time managers. They carefully check out the time frame within which they have to achieve their objectives. No matter what comes in their way, they do not stop from sticking to these timelines. Either it's their family, friends or commitments they do not compromise on their schedule and will manage in completing all planned activities within the time planned. They precaution not to be interrupted and if such circumstances arise, they go ahead with what they had originally planned. This shows that they are focused in accomplishing great tasks. The next qualities of a successful person are how the goal is or the route to achieving it, they never give up. They face every obstacle head on. Success is everywhere. People who earn their respect and reputation are successful, and people can reach their goal by their endeavor are also successful. Success is a happiness of every one's life.


Thus, these are the qualities that I feel justified in calling an individual as a successful person.

Thursday, 9 July 2015

The Art of Giving

"Give others all that is alive in us-our interest, understanding, our knowledge, our humor, everything in us that's good. In doing so, we enhance the sense of aliveness in others while enhancing our own. When we give, we get a "heightened vitality" of what it means to be human." - Erich Fromm

True giving comes from the same place inside you as your deepest happiness. They are inexplicably intertwined. A gift is something that is enjoyed twice. First by the giver who revels in the pleasure of giving something special and then also enjoyed by the person who receives the gift.

With our changing economic times, everyone is asking for help in some form. There are as many reasons to give as there are ways to give. Some people give for recognition. They want their names in programs, on park benches and in hospital lobbies. Others give expecting to be paid back or thanked, they give to get. Some people want a hands-on-experience and are generous with their time. Some like to give anonymously and don't want any recognition at all.

People who truly master the art of giving give out of the goodness of their hearts with no self-serving motives. Giving becomes a blessing for the giver and receiver. It's human nature to believe, "When I have more I'll give more." If you come from this mentality you never have enough of anything to give. Generosity is a choice that feels right and joyful. Generosity comes from believing you have enough to share.

You may be a bit skeptical, wondering what exactly do you have to give? Everybody has something of value for another person. It could be a kind word, a simple smile, some appreciation, the sharing of some special knowledge, even a helping hand or a bit of support during a difficult emotional time. You have something to give everyone.

The act of true giving is something wonderful and amazing. With most things in this world, there is only a limited amount of what you can give away. Fortunately, generosity and kindness are not bound to these same material limitations. One of life's most basic laws is "every single act of love, kindness and generosity will multiply and return to you many times over ". The more you give the happier you will feel.

Many thousands of years ago a great sage in Babylon said "The reward of charity depends entirely upon the extent of the kindness in it." It is one of life's wonderful paradoxes that you limit the power of your giving by having an expectation of getting something in return. When you give without any thought or desire for something back, your returns will be truly limitless.

Your life is like a river of energy, continually flowing. What happens when a river stops moving? It get very muddy, and stagnant. A fast flowing river is full of life and clear water. Where would you rather drink? The acts of giving and receiving are a continuous process of circulation that continues the flow of your life's energies. For one person to receive someone else has to give. It's a cycle of energy that flows continually onwards.

Pause for as moment as you read this, and take a big, deep breath. Hold it for as long as you possibly can. As you hold it inside, notice how uncomfortable you begin to feel when you are holding on to something that is meant to be released. Now, breath out, completely and hold your breath with your lungs fully emptied. Feel how uncomfortable you feel when you are resisting taking in something that you need.

True giving, without expectation of anything in return is as effortless as breathing. How often do you expect back from the person you gave something to a gift of a similar or greater value? Is this true giving or merely an unvoiced expectation of an exchange of similar goods? Have you ever heard anyone saying " I just give and give and give until I have nothing left "? This behavior has many other names. Self denial, self pity, martyrdom, self righteousness to name just a few.

This is an ego based form of giving. It is giving with an expectation of something in return. In reality, this is not giving at all but an un-vocalized form of barter. If, through the act of giving, you feel that you have "lost something or are somehow lessened" then the gift was not truly given from your heart. Truly giving something from the heart is an action which will fill your life with joy. This is where the expression to "give whole heartedly" comes from.

The intention behind your giving is the most important thing. The intention should always be to create happiness for both the giver and the receiver. If you experience resentment and a feeling of "I don't really want to give this to this person, but I feel that I have to" or "I really should give them something," this is probably what ultimately will come back to you. Perhaps in this case, you need to consider not giving the gift at all!

What you give out is what comes back in direct proportions to the feelings you have in the act of giving. It's very simple. If you want to experience more joy, give joy to others, if you want more love, learn to give love, if you want attention and appreciation, learn to give appreciation to others. These are some of life's most precious gifts and they don't cost you anything. When you meet someone, you can silently send them a blessing, wishing them happiness, joy and laughter. This kind of silent giving is very powerful. Do this, (with no thought of return) and you will suddenly find people around you opening to you in joy and happiness.

In ancient China, Lao Tsu wrote "Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in Giving Creates Love."

The following are gifts we all have that can benefit others.


  • Give of Your Talents


  • Give someone an hour of coaching, offer child care or do you have plumbing, painting, or landscaping skills? Give things. Clean your home and clear out your closet of unwanted things. Give what you don't use or need to charity. Your junk is someone else's treasure.

  • Give blood


  • Save a life. I've done this on several occasions; it's a great feeling to know you are helping to save someone's life.

  • Give of yourself


  • Make someone feel loved, special and appreciated with a visit, phone call, email, text or card. Give a handmade gift. Give praise, gratitude and appreciation. This creates heart-to-heart connections.

  • Give a recommendation


  • Enrich someone's life by sharing the discovery of a great blog, book, restaurant, product or service. The message you give is "This was a great find for me and I want to share it with you."

  • Give the gift of laughter


  • Laughter brings health and happiness to others. It offers physiological, psychological and spiritual benefits. Laugh loud and laugh often with everyone.

  • Give an invitation


  • Being invited to any kind of event means people want to be with you. When you invite someone into your life you are saying, "I want to spend time with you, you are important to me.

  • Give affection


  • Appropriately offer a hug, a kiss on the cheek, a pat on the back, a touch on an arm or a tender look. We never lose the need for affection and acceptance. Touching heals emotional wounds.

  • Give good advice


  • Ask the question, "Do you want advice or to you want me to listen." If needed and wanted advice can be life-saving. Shared insights and wisdom is a precious gift.

  • Give encouragement


  • When people are filled with doubt and fear they lack courage. When you inspire and motivate someone to act on their dreams, it can be life changing. You are making the world a better place.

  • Give without keeping score


  • Real giving is expecting nothing in return. Give when you have the opportunity not because you received something and want to return the favor. Never hesitate to give because you gave last.

  • Give forgiveness


  • Forgiveness offers healing to family, friends, coworkers and neighbors. Forgive yourself and others in spite of memories of unlovable times. Drop the story of what they did and what you did and the meaning you have given it.

  • Give money


  • Giving stuff is easy. We usually don't need or want it... But almost everyone likes to hang on to their money. Giving away money is more difficult because it means less for you. Give money because others need it. Give money because we're dependent on one another.

  • Give an act of kindness


  • Kindness is the easiest and most abundant gift we have to give away. Buy Girl Scout cookies, always open the door for the person behind you, return your grocery cart, make cookies for your neighbor. The list is endless. Kindness brings joy to the giver, receiver and anyone witnessing the act!

  • Give love


  • It's easy to love those who love us back. Challenge yourself to give love to those who deserve it the least. Make your love unconditional. Make the world a more loving place. Everyone will reap the benefits!

The act of giving precludes reciprocity of any kind. It's a manifestation of the love we feel within, just bursting for a way out. True giving flows freely from the heart, with the full force of love and compassion and honest selflessness propelling it forward. Anything less is simply a disguised request for a bartered transaction.

Dealing with Life's Problems


How often have you been living life, happy and content, and then suddenly life slaps you in the face with something unexpected? We all have problems, and the truth of the matter is that problems will never go away. They will just change form.
One time you may be struggling with health, the next with money, and still the next with relationships. That is both the curse and blessing of life.

You don't have to suffer because everything isn't perfect in your life.



Behind the Scenes of Problems
Nothing becomes a problem until you label it so. You've probably noticed that different people have different opinions of what problems are, and how much attention should be given to any one thing. This means that problems exist in our heads, and that we create them, define them, and fear them.

The Most Overlooked Secret
The secret to dealing with life's problems is to realize that they are illusions of our imagination. Sure, they feel very real.

Let's say you're driving your car merrily down the highway, until someone cuts you off. You might fly off the handle, or you might not. It will depend on how you perceive the situation. It's an excellent example of how some people create something to complain about where others are completely fine.

Life will always have "problems" and the way to deal with them is to let them be. You don't have to try to analyze, fantasize, or figure out your problems. Let them figure themselves out. The more you try, the more you fuel the problem, and the more miserable you become.

This doesn't mean you stop solving problems. It means you stop the compulsive worrying and fear-mongering inside your head.

How to Stop the Compulsive Worrying
You can stop the madness by simply staying present, and letting whatever happens be. This can be extremely hard if you bump into a problem that is important to you, but it is through those big problems that the biggest changes occur.

Why is Life so Hard?
Life can seem tough from time to time, but it is through those tough times that you grow as a human being. It's uncomfortable, but that's life.

It's a rollercoaster with both highs and lows, which we all have to live through, so you might as well learn how to deal with the lows. The more comfortable you become with life's problems, the more you'll enjoy life's gifts.

Conclusion
Life is what it is, and most of life's problems are created by us. The problems are events in our life, no one is denying that, but the extrapolation that we do freaks us out, and then we wonder why we feel so bad.

It's a life-long habit most of us have cultivated, which means we can change it. But change starts with awareness. Be kind to yourself, and enjoy both the highs and the lows.

MAKE A DIFFERENCE

  We are all gifted with a unique set of skills and abilities. With those abilities we can make extra-ordinary things happen in the world around us, or not.
It is completely up to you whether you want your life to make a difference and what difference you want your life to make.

Many people set lofty goals for their lives and want to be remembered as visionaries, they want to change and save the world.

Others want to be remembered as the kind man or women down the street who always helped and always listened if you needed help.

Who do you think is the better person?

The one who changes the world or the one who saves the individual?

Do what not have to do incredible things; just being there for the people around you can save someone from a meaningless life and help them lead the life they were meant to live.

Small things matter

Changing the life of another person is an incredible feeling and it is completely within your grasp. You can do this by deciding to become a mentor for a young ambitious person. You can help them avoid the mistakes you have made and help them learn from the ones they will inevitably make themselves.

Fight for someone's rights

You will often see someone get treated unfairly. It happens both professionally and socially, individuals who deserve recognition do not get it.

By taking up the fight and making sure others get what they deserve and earned you will be a true hero. You will make a lasting impact on their lives and you will be rewarded with love and help in the future when you are in need.

The law of karma says that whatever you do you will get back three fold, helping others is therefore a selfish act, but still a good act, one that you should do without fear, with love and with the knowledge that you will one day be rewarded.

Go the distance

Compromise is the enemy of long term commitment, if you have committed to helping someone by being their mentor or by fighting for their rights, doesn't stop half way. Go the distance and see it through. Make sure something happens so all your work doesn't end up as only talk.

Conclusion

In truth we might all be here to help each other, we might all be a part of a machine that fosters cooperation, or were not. We might just be here to make the best of the situation for ourselves.

In any case, helping others brings happiness and prosperity into your own life, so for whatever reason you chose to help others, it will always help you in return.

The difference between stopping half way and finishing isn't much in terms of the work you put in, but worlds apart in the difference for the individual you are helping.

Sunday, 12 April 2015

ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN

This Poem is dedicated to all the people who think they've lost on Life.
Life is a mystery... Anything can happen

ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN

Listen to the Mustn't,
Listen to the Don't
Listen to the Shouldn't
The Impossibles,
the Won't
Listen to the Never Haves,
Then listen close to me

--Anything can happen, MY FRIEND,
Anything can be.

#BEPOSITIVE #STAYHAPPY #WOOPWOPP